Flying monkeys show up after the abuse. They aren’t there to witness it. It could be decades later or it could be the very next day, but they will defend the abuser. There were not two sides in that house. There was a child, and there was a grown people with total power over her. That is not two perspectives, that is two people harming another person who had no way to leave, no way to fight back, and no way to even name what was happening to her. The child lived in fear and s

You can't tell a child that their abusive parent loves them and then expect them to recognize abuse as unacceptable later. You conditioned them to accept harm as love and if they aren’t aware enough to stop that confusion, it will follow them into every relationship. Stop lying to children about abusive parents loving them and doing the best they can. You’re doing them a lifelong disservice by siding with the abusive adult as the child fights to be a loving little human with

It’s still incredibly courageous to be seen after a life full of secrets. Often, daughters of narcissistic mothers wear masks of...